You Can Create Your Own Declaration of Independence

The Ides of March
– March 15, 2006

Today my oldest child turns
29.  She lives out of town – has for the past 11 years. I mourn the distance between us, and celebrate her birthday.

It is the Ides of March, less than a week before the first day of Spring.

This day past was a windy day
full of change, power outages that fortunately lasted only seconds, brief glints of sunshine, hail, snow,
and many moving clouds through alternating hues of gray and blue  .
. .  and  it was a day of work.

Clients come and go on the
hour throughout the day and evening, seeking answers that bring insight
and relief; and sharing their pain, hopes, dreams, fears, and heart’s
desires.  I also manage to fit in a “working walk” with a longtime
friend and colleague about how to inform physicians about the services
I offer for self-healing, development, empowerment and achievement.

What I Say to Support and
Stimulate Recovery, Release and Creation?

Those are all long words, I
later think, that are probably significantly overused.  Clients
have shining faces, I’ve decided, and look up at me from a place of
sudden clearing, open and drawn within to deeper places of consideration
and listening from which they discover transformational insights that
seem to magically fuel new processes of self-creating.

What are we really capable
of, I think, and, as I continue to intuitively ask, where is the energy available to be able to freely move forward? 
What can I say to support and stimulate recovery, release, and creation?

Your Inalienable Rights

I fantasize about how we could
all could create our own Declaration of Independence to remind us that
we are endowed with inalienable rights to:

  • Acknowledge ourselves
      and each other as equals, and
      know it is not only the truth, but enough
  • Grow up
  • Be cared for and
  • Move past ourselves
      to consider another completely
      without expectation, condition, or agenda
  • Ditto thinking
  • Refuse to assume
      . . . anything
  • Be able to respond
      (response-able) in a fully recognized present
  • Know that love is
      quite nonspecific, after all

Our Magical Window to the

I think in many ways my four
children taught me these truths again, and again . . . and again . .

As Kahlil Gibran says in
The Prophet
, children offer a magical window to us of their future,
a place we can’t occupy, to profoundly touch and spiritually transform
us – the vision I most love to work with in my Centering practice.

And so I celebrate beyond what
I know and can access, which is oddly comforting to me, honor my daughter’s
last twenty-something-year-to-begin, and catch some corresponding rays
of innocence, wisdom, and freedom.

When we think, breathe,
listen and imagine without condition, all possibilities emerge.