You Can Create Your Own Declaration of Independence

The Ides of March

Today my oldest child turns 29. She
lives out of town – has for the past11 years. I mourn the distance between us, and celebrate her birthday. It is the Ides of March, less than a week before the first day of Spring.

This day past was a windy day full of change, power outages that fortunately lasted only seconds, brief glints of sunshine, hail, snow, and many
moving clouds through alternating hues of gray and blue  . . . and it was a day of work.

Clients come and go on the hour throughout the day and evening, seeking
answers that bring insight and relief; and sharing their pain, hopes, dreams,
fears, and heart’s desires. I also
manage to fit in a “working walk” with a longtime friend and colleague about
how to inform physicians about the services I offer for self-healing,
development, empowerment and achievement.

What I Say to Support and Stimulate
Recovery, Release and Creation?

Those are all long words, I later think, that are probably significantly
overused. Clients have shining faces,
I’ve decided, and look up at me from a place of sudden clearing, open and drawn
within to deeper places of consideration and listening from which they discover
transformational insights that seem to magically fuel new processes of

What are we really capable of, I think, and, as I continue to intuitively ask, where is the energy available to be able to freely move forward? What can I say to support and stimulate
recovery, release, and creation?

Your Inalienable Rights

I fantasize about how we could all could create our own Declaration of
Independence to remind us that we are endowed with inalienable rights to:

  • Acknowledge ourselves and each other as equals, and know it is not only the truth, but enough
  • Grow up
  • Be cared for and about
  • Move past ourselves to consider another completely without expectation, condition, or agenda
  • Ditto thinking
  • Refuse to assume . . .anything
  • Be able to respond (response-able) in a fully recognized present
  • Know that love is quite nonspecific, after all

Our Magical Window to the Future

I think in many ways my four children taught me these truths again, and
again . . . and again . . .

As Kahlil Gibran says in The Prophet , children offer a magical
window to us of their future, a place we can’t occupy, to profoundly touch and
spiritually transform us – the vision I most love to work with in my Centering

And so I celebrate beyond what I know and can access, which is oddly comforting
to me, honor my daughter’s last twenty-something-year-to-begin, and catch some
corresponding rays of innocence, wisdom, and freedom.

we think, breathe, listen and imagine without condition, all possibilities