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Less Polite, Much Faster Times We don’t speak much, in the twenty-first century, about acknowledgment.  These are less polite, much faster times, and a lot has gone out the window that, in earlier times, covered what we would call healthy interpersonal communications.  Therapeutic lingo describes “boundaries”, assertiveness”, “self-esteem”, but doesn’t directly address acknowledgment.  It has …

  What’s Rubbed Off I have gone to more weddings, including, of course, my oldest daughter’s over this past year, than I have gone to in my entire life.  I think something is significantly rubbing off on me related to something new.  In case you need a refresher, the rhyme goes, “something old, something new, …

Today my first husband would have been sixty years old. Every year on this day since 1990, the year after he died, I somehow, no matter what else is going on, think of how he would have been on this day. What milestones in our lives he didn’t live to see!  So many amazing things, …

The Ides of March Today my oldest child turns 29. She lives out of town – has for the past11 years. I mourn the distance between us, and celebrate her birthday. It is the Ides of March, less than a week before the first day of Spring. This day past was a windy day full …